What did you like best about the book? What was most inspiring? What about it lingers in your mind?
What did you like the least? What seemed flat or uninteresting?
What other books did this remind you of?
What Greg-like experiences have you had about humility is trusting God and making sacrifices or giving something up? What Jerilyn-like experiences have you had where you had to listen and believe God’s good news? How have you, like Marty, relied on others in humility to be successful? When have you, like Brett, felt God clarify what is God’s job and what is your job?
What experiences with God have you had that are the basis of your faith? What dramatic ones have you had, and what small, subtle, daily, and almost imperceptible ones have you had? What do you think about the connection between humility and friendship? What about the connection between pride and see God and others as the enemy? What do you think about the possibility of Christ calling you His friend?
What do you think about love as a combination of poverty or need and resource or grace? How might our neediness be related to humility? What do you think about that neediness in relation to meekness and vulnerability? What do you think about how we are all sometimes like new missionaries and sometimes like experienced missionaries?
What do you think of the idea that there is an important difference between humility in your relationship with God and humility in your relationships with other people? How might Kent from King Lear be a good friend? How is that related to humility? What is Cordelia’s friendship, love, and humility like? What humility did Marty encounter?
How might Jane in Jane Eyre demonstrate how to not be humble in relationships with equals? How does she demonstrate true humility?
What is the place of humility in unequal relationships, like between parents and children, teachers and students, coaches and players, and therapists and clients? How is it like playing God?
Why might fear, manipulation, and pride be such tempting tools to use? Where have you seen well-meaning people use them? What is the opposite of those weapons? How can true humility encourage the agency of others?
How might differences of opinion politically be like liking cilantro or not? How do conservatives and liberal see things differently? How could those differences be valued and productive?
What is modesty, and how exactly does it differ from humility? Why would this be important? When have you seen people mix up or incorrectly connect these two concepts?
What are the advantages and the disadvantages of a potentially revised pride cycle diagram?
Why do people often dislike group projects? How does the story of Doug show why people dislike those projects? What are different solutions to the “Doug Dilemma?” How might the “Doug Dilemma” or the free rider problem give insight into why we tend to be judgmental, self-critical, and prone to comparison? What are some practical solutions to being judgmental, self-critical, and prone to comparison?
What is the difference between feeling that you are special versus feeling that you are normal? What might be the benefits of embracing that one is normal? What might the Atonement have to do with being normal?
